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The Trap My 23-Year-Old Self Fell For (Again)

The Trap My 23-Year-Old Self Fell For (Again)

Lately, I've been noticing myself fall for a mental trap that I thought I climbed myself out of in my early twenties.

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It's this idea that I need one big business idea to rule them all.

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My "forever business", because if I'm not trying to build what could be a multi-million dollar idea that I build for the next 20 years, then what's the point of creating these small ones?

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This is a dangerous way of thinking, in my experience.

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Not because there's anything inherently wrong with wanting to build a massive company.

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But for me, it can lead me to believe that:

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  • If an idea isn’t enormous on day one, it isn’t worth pursuing at all.
  • Smaller projects are a waste of time, even though they’re usually the fastest way to learn what actually works.
  • Market size and monetization potential is more important than trying solve a real problem for a few people first

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What's funny is that I still remember starting my entrepreneurial journey at 23 where my only goal was to create a life where I'm able to wake up and choose to build whatever I want, when I want.

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To achieve time freedom...yada yada.

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But more importantly, the freedom to act on those moments when an idea flashes through your mind like a bolt of electricity, arriving unannounced in the middle of the most ordinary parts of your day.

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(btw thanks chatgpt for helping me articulate this feeling, lol)

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You ever play “Would You Rather?” and ask whether you’d rather earn $10k a month with total freedom or $100k a month with no life and nonstop stress?
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I’ve always been the person who would take the $10k and the freedom without thinking twice.

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Obviously, it’s not always that easy (and your priorities shift with each season of life), but I like to think my 90-year-old self will be glad I worked for reasons bigger than my bank balance.

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I'm grateful to say that after 7 years of solopreneurship, I'm in a position to live like this for the first time in my life.

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I'm single, living alone, and own a few passive streams of income that keep the lights on.

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I'm not rich, but my basic necessities are met.

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So, what's the problem?

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Well, I’ve learned that temptation still exists every step of the way.

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It just changes shape, nudging you to keep shifting the goal post so that satisfaction always feels one step out of reach.

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This is when I have to remind myself that the best advice is rarely new.

Reminder to self: Build like you built your first directory

When I started my first directory almost three years ago (that still earns about $2k/month), I genuinely didn't care if it made money.

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I mean, I kinda hoped it would, but it was my 5th priority down on the list of reasons for starting to build stuff online.

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All I cared about back then was developing my SEO chops. I figured I'd be able to utilize the skill once I did find my "forever business" in the future.

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Clearly, there's part of me that feels like I haven't found my "forever business" just yet.

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But that's okay.

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I still prefer to keep building with the same idea as my north star.

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Build to learn and learn while building.

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Only now, instead of grasping fundamental SEO tactics, I’m starting to use directories as a playground to explore new skills like n8n automation and LLM-driven SEO.

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Stuff that I'm a complete noob at, but sounds really interesting.

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So if you’re in the middle of your own project, or thinking about starting something new, maybe let this be your reminder.

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You don’t need a million-dollar idea to justify showing up.

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You don’t need permission to build something just because you’re curious.

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You can always measure success by how much you’re learning, not just by how much you’re earning (hey, that rhymed).


If you made it this far, I have two selfish asks:

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First, if you started building directories but quit, why did you quit? And how would I be able to help?

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Secondly, if you're an expert at n8n automation and want to teach me a couple things, my inbox is open!

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Would love to swap SEO knowledge for n8n knowledge. Thanks!

Keep Building,

Frey
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